Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed
by Wendy T. Behary LCSW
Being involved in a relationship with a narcissist can be very confusing and hard to identify. The narcissist tends to be a master of manipulation: massaging you with one hand and simultaneously stabbing you in the back with the other. When you wince in pain about the stabbing pain he will tell you you’re crazy and so ungrateful in that you should be focusing on and thanking him for the nice neck massage. The narcissist gets you so turned around in your head that you end up thanking him and telling the world how he gives the best neck rubs. All the while you can’t tell if you’re in love, crazy or if he’s wonderful or evil?
This book is a rather quick read and a good resource to help you identify if you are with a narcissist and helps you feel less crazy because it identifies some of the subtle but on going barrage you get of all the little manipulative games the narcissist plays with you. I recommend my clients read this book for those two reasons. The book then goes on to offer ways you can try to work with the narcissist and remedy the situation.
I know most will try to remedy the situation and since it is an important step to letting go I know you will try to remedy it too. I however don’t think you can change the narcissist at all and so it’s best to just get out of the relationship.
Overall this books help you realize all those subtle mind games were happening, identify some of them and lets you know you weren’t crazy = It’s happening & I recommend you get out!